I have 3 friends who are going through health battles at the moment. All are suffering ,which is very hard to witness from afar. If I were there I would know what to do to help, as I have been through the wringer myself a few too many times to count.
One thing I know, when you are in it yourself it’s pretty hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. It feels like it will never end, and it’s easy to feel hopelessness and despair.There is nothing like intense emotional or physical pain to get you right into the present moment, which usually is good. In this case it’s not so good. You feel like you are the only person in the world this is happening to, even though your friends and family feel it intensely. Many people who have not experienced this type of trauma feel helpless, run away, or rely on platitudes because they have no idea what to say or do.
If you are a caregiver, bless your sweet soul. I had a few people run away in horror when I was going through my battles, but most ran towards me. That in itself can be overwhelming to someone who is very sick, but I will say the cards, flowers, small gifts , prayers, love and support was much appreciated. Not at the time of crisis because I was so out of it,but after the worst was over I felt so loved. The very best gift of all is someone who can listen deeply without comparing their own experience, or telling me everything would be fine (really, how could they know that? as it turned out it was, but it could have gone either way).
For now, I am sending out cards of support , including them in my meditations and prayers, and dedicating this post to these 3 special people.
Love to you all